LETTERS
TO MY YOUNGER SELF
TO
MY BARELY BEGUN SELF
VEDATROYEE DE GHOSH
You are
so small and innocent, so full of life, so beautiful, I wish it could just stay
the same way forever. Wish I could wrap a few hugs, kisses and a puppy with
this letter. You are too fragile, yet fierce. Full of ambitions, a doctor, a
scientist, a teacher, you want to become all when you grow up. But you are bound
by those alphabets which have shaken your identity, you feel devastated when
you are the only one clueless in class, sitting alone on the first bench, your
teacher holding your hand, making you try your luck at cursive writing but no,
it’s hard and no one gets you. No one wants to get you. You feel tormented,
only that you get to know the meaning of the word later. You, at the age of 5,
are made to believe you are wrong in your every endeavor, and you’re special
and powerless.
Now you
learn the first lesson of your life. Nothing is impossible, nothing at all. You
have the power to define the magnitude of galaxies, you have the power to rule
the world, you can become whatever you want to become. All you need is 2 cups
of zeal, 3 ounces ambition, a quarter of enthusiasm, belief to taste and
surplus amount of hard work. You will cross this bridge too, what people
thought was impossible, you will shove it on their face and show what you are.
The next
lesson you learn is whatever happens, any wrong, any right being done by you or
to you in your life, your parents are always there for you. Talk to them
through everything and you will be surprised looking at the magicians you have
been blessed with.
Play
hard, real hard, and get bruised. Learn how to get up by yourself after a fall.
Learn how to heal your wounds when no one is around to help. Keep smiling no
matter what problem you face because every night gives way to sunrays.
With
love
Vedatroyee.
To my
early teen self
Yes, you
are a rebel and it’s good to be one for rebels are the only ones who know what
to fight for and when. Only don’t get involved in unnecessary matters. And a
tip, always keep a way out of every problem you apprehend. Backups never hurt
either.
Remember
when I told you, your parents are the only ones for you always, highlight the
words only and always. Trust them and entrust them with whatever situation you
find yourself in. Make some friends, make plans, execute them, learn a few
things here and there, be jack of all trades but remember to be master of a few
too. Try your hand at everything because after this you have to take control of
the ship you’re sailing on.
Focus is
the key word now. Don’t lose focus. It’s very easy to get derailed anytime from
now but you have to get your equations straight. Make mistakes but make it a
habit to learn from them, improvise and make it an asset. The faster you learn
this, the better for you. The world is tough but it will only to make you
tougher. And you will have to be ready for the world soon, but don’t worry my
dear. Someone will have back you all the time. And by the time you grow up, you
either keep finding who that someone is or you learn it to be yourself. The
choice is yours.
You
might be doing well or even be amazing in a thing or a few, but never ever let
that limit your horizons. If you are good at something, your work doesn’t stop
there, it actually doubles. You gotta work hard on that and work harder on
those you lack perfection in. Don’t be proud. Ever. There’s nothing to be proud
or arrogant about. Always believe and know that there are people who are always
better than you, this makes big enough room for improvement and gives you the
required time to assess yourself. You don’t have to be the best, and that
doesn’t grant you the permission to be the worst either. Be in between; be
constant, so that you have enough time to learn more.
Never
see anyone as inferior. You have no idea when the caterpillar breaks open its
cocoon to become a beautiful butterfly. Don’t be rude when not necessary
considering you won’t be in your best temper all the time either. Be bold yet
kind. Be truthful yet shrewd when required. Forgive but never forget, remember
what wrong people did to you so that you don’t give them a chance again but
never seek revenge unless necessary. The world is a funny place, each thing I’m
asking you to not do has an unless or until tagged along. That’s because it’s
all a matter of experience and you can never know the true intentions of people
unless you are in their position. Well I hope you will understand what is the
right thing to do, maybe when you are 60 or maybe not even then. Till then
learn to trust people. Or maybe not. It’s confusing. It still is and will
always be but you will figure a way out of everything.
With
love
Vedatroyee.
To my 17
year old self
It's
amazing how you have dealt with all your random hormonal imbalances till now
owing to certain, let's just call it reasons. But now it's time you learnt
another lesson. So you have been in this pool with you winning every chance at
the game you master, but now you end up in this river with masters of all
trades and you face the wide ocean in front of you. You make your choices : how
you combat high school, how you prepare yourself hard for the tough competition
people offer; you lose, you win sometimes maybe, you lose again and you keep on
losing at times but you have to be your own anchor providing the support you
need. Be your own mental support that you want. You are lovely and let no one
and no result define your worth. You are much more than any number you face -
age, weight, marks.
Learn to
love each inch of you from now itself, because after this the road only gets
lonelier and intense but worry not, everyone is on the same boat, everyone is
dealing with insecurities of their own. Talk. To anyone. About your problems,
about your anxieties, about anything at all. We tend to make things more
complicated in our head than it is in real.
Breathe.
No problem is bigger than your life, ever. No problem is worth the attention,
the focus given to it, no problem should be, at this point in your life or
ever, more important than the smile on your parent’s face, or even their
scolding as a matter of fact.
No
effort is ever enough. Stop complaining and start doing. You might think life
is unfair and you don’t ever get what you deserve, and that success is
inversely proportional to the amount of hard work you put in, but my dear it’s
not all that true. It’s all a game of luck. Just pick yourself up when you
lose, don’t lose hope when everything seems bizarre, keep on moving, that’s the
least and strangely, the most you can do.
You have
lots in front of you, keep your head high, learn to prepare for the best yet
expect the worst because life ain’t fair, neither are the people around you.
Learn to be smart enough to get your things straight up, not only smart enough
to get a few good grades.
Learn to
grab opportunities as they come. No one’s gonna tell you that this is it, you
got to discover it yourself. Never be too harsh on yourself. Believe that
everything happens for a reason and that life has wonders still waiting to be
unlocked. Do not conform to your peers’ standards of acceptable and cool. Find your own cool, be messy. You are allowed
to make as many mistakes as you want. Perfection and flawlessness are
overrated. There are plenty of failures and heartbreaks on the way, but all of
them will make you a little more of you.
With
love
Vedatroyee.
To my
present self
These 20
years have turned you into a beautiful young lady. You have seen a lot, maybe
not all but a lot of it. And I’m proud of the choices you have made. Never
regret any decision of yours because that is what you thought was the best
thing to do at that moment. Life throws options at you all the time, at each
crossing you find yourself engulfed in a brand new state of confusion. Trust
your gut, trust your intuitions when your brain stops answering your queries.
Be so full of yourself that you don’t need someone else to fill the void you
feel.
Stop
giving parts of yourself to people who have no intention of keeping them. You
were born with stars in your eyes and galaxies in your heart. Respect that.
Respect the amount of love your parents have bonded and imbibed in you. Respect
the pains they have incurred to nurture a miracle like you. You are nothing
less than a work of art, a masterpiece evolving with time, and it’s only for
the better. You are pure, you are divine, you are everything any true artist will
seek for. You have bits and pieces of stars in you which aspire to take you
beyond your hail of ambitions. Hold on to that crazy wild streak of yours. It
may feel a little out of place at the moment, but it’s your most endearing
quality.
Never
try to masquerade your inner fears and weaknesses under the veil of addiction.
You are no less than anyone you admire, you are no less than anyone you fear.
Stop giving others everything when they don’t even deserve an inch of your
existence. Know that somewhere, someone does exist, who would love you for what
you are and for all that you stand for, your insecurities, your scars, your
stretch marks, your breakdowns, but would still show off to the world that you
are his. Learn to stop caring for those who only emotionally drain you and make
you question your truths and vices.
You come
alone, you leave alone; find someone who makes the journey in between worth the
struggle and the moments trailing out of our hands. You are a diamond, stop
coating yourself with dust, darkness and sorrow. You have a flame inside which
can light oceans, who is anyone to make you surrender to mere moonshine.
There
will be thunders and lightning along your way to success, but stop not. Roaring
clouds may frighten us, but peacocks dance. Be the peacock when you are
frightened or scared. Take responsibility of what you do, be your own
architect, carve milestones in your path. Go on, live your dreams, achieve your
goals, make yourself and your parents proud, make a few millions maybe as a
bonus, but most importantly, love yourself. Respect yourself and be kind, be
patient. When things are supposed to happen, you will be astonished to see how
magically all the pieces of the jigsaw puzzle come together and have the final
picture in your hand.
Give time
some time to fix everything. Every broken piece is an asset too only if you
have the correct intention and motivation. You are not alone. Help will
eventually come, sooner or later, when you need it. Be satisfied with what you
have but never with what you put in. Be brave, take chances. Breathe. Let the
feelings sink in. Breathe again. Repeat.
With
love
Vedatroyee.
To my
future self
Honestly,
I’m scared. I’m scared to face you. I’m so full of apprehensions, I have my
doubts and questions but I think I’m ready. I mean, why not, life has never
been a bed of roses neither do I expect it to be one. I’ve come this far and
intend to go farther than the fathomless I intend to achieve. I have a few
ideas, I have my goals, I have plans. Maybe it’ll all fit together well, maybe
it won’t but I’ll take my chance at you. After all, these maybes and maybe nots
are all in the head, right? And all I can do is work towards making you
worthwhile and I am all set. Even if time takes its most unpredictable turns
and I don’t become who I ought to be, forgive me for I’m not a sinner, I’m just
a mistake of my own, just a caricature of time. But whatever it is, I’ll give
my best shot.
With
love
Vedatroyee
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